It all started one evening when I was sitting in the dining hall at my university with some friends. I had just visited the dessert section and returned with a glorious piece of chocolate cake. As I sat down I carefully started removing the frosting from the cake before eating it. A friend looked at me, shocked. When I explained that I really love cake but I almost never eat the frosting he asked, “Do you hate all things? Do you hate puppies?!” Well, of course I don’t hate puppies. So, I asked him. “Would you like to eat my frosting?” And naturally, he took my frosting and we were both happier because of it. This has been a reoccurring story in my life. I remember in elementary school when classmates would bring in cupcakes for their birthdays. I never had a problem finding someone who was interested in eating my frosting and it was always a better cake experience for both of us. Now, I don’t hate all frosting. There are some types that I quite enjoy, especially cheese cake frosting which is part of the reason I have developed such a love for red velvet cake. But, my feelings about most frostings spurred further conversation that same day in the dining hall. Someone from across the table said “Kaysy, you should write a song about how you love cake but not the frosting, and make it like a metaphor for love or something!” Well, I kind of liked that idea and started to write that song. However, I just couldn’t alienate potential cake loving friends. At least not yet because the simple truth is I. LOVE. CAKE. The fact that I don’t like frosting has honestly only made me love cake even more because all of my great cake sharing experiences. So, I set aside the frosting song (for a bit. it may make a comeback later If I so desire) and set out to write a song about my love for cake.
On a different note: I hope the message of this song is not taken the wrong way. I wrote the lyrics carefully in hopes that anything about body image would not be taken the wrong way, although that is a sensitive subject on the internet and among soecity. I hope that you already know that I will always promote self-love, and along with self-love comes PERSONAL choice. We tend to be blasted with opinions from all directions. There’s the “food doesn’t taste as good as skinny feels” mantra but there are others shutting that down saying ” eat what you want and love your body no matter what”. You’ll get haters if you’re dieting – “just eat something already” – and you’ll get haters if you’re deemed overweight – “cut back on the junk and go to the gym”. In this song I don’t claim to be “fat” (ugh i hate that word) or “skinny”. What I do claim is like most girls, I’ve heard the body image voices from all around me and in my own head. I’ve decided not to give up cake and life’s delicacies because they make me PERSONALLY happy. I believe that everything should be your personal choice. No matter what you choose in your lifestyle, don’t let the haters get to you. It’s all about self love and I will always promote self love even if it’s in weird ways (like songs about cake).
I hope you enjoy the song, the video, and this blog post. This has been a fun one!