It all started one evening when I was sitting in the dining hall at my university with some friends. I had just visited the dessert section and returned with a glorious piece of chocolate cake. As I sat down I carefully started removing the frosting from the cake before eating it. A friend looked at me, shocked. When I explained that I really love cake but I almost never eat the frosting he asked, “Do you hate all things? Do you hate puppies?!” Well, of course I don’t hate puppies. So, I asked him. “Would you like to eat my frosting?” And naturally, he took my frosting and we were both happier because of it. This has been a reoccurring story in my life. I remember in elementary school when classmates would bring in cupcakes for their birthdays. I never had a problem finding someone who was interested in eating my frosting and it was always a better cake experience for both of us. Now, I don’t hate all frosting. There are some types that I quite enjoy, especially cheese cake frosting which is part of the reason I have developed such a love for red velvet cake. But, my feelings about most frostings spurred further conversation that same day in the dining hall. Someone from across the table said “Kaysy, you should write a song about how you love cake but not the frosting, and make it like a metaphor for love or something!” Well, I kind of liked that idea and started to write that song. However, I just couldn’t alienate potential cake loving friends. At least not yet because the simple truth is I. LOVE. CAKE. The fact that I don’t like frosting has honestly only made me love cake even more because all of my great cake sharing experiences. So, I set aside the frosting song (for a bit. it may make a comeback later If I so desire) and set out to write a song about my love for cake.
On a different note: I hope the message of this song is not taken the wrong way. I wrote the lyrics carefully in hopes that anything about body image would not be taken the wrong way, although that is a sensitive subject on the internet and among soecity. I hope that you already know that I will always promote self-love, and along with self-love comes PERSONAL choice. We tend to be blasted with opinions from all directions. There’s the “food doesn’t taste as good as skinny feels” mantra but there are others shutting that down saying ” eat what you want and love your body no matter what”. You’ll get haters if you’re dieting – “just eat something already” – and you’ll get haters if you’re deemed overweight – “cut back on the junk and go to the gym”. In this song I don’t claim to be “fat” (ugh i hate that word) or “skinny”. What I do claim is like most girls, I’ve heard the body image voices from all around me and in my own head. I’ve decided not to give up cake and life’s delicacies because they make me PERSONALLY happy. I believe that everything should be your personal choice. No matter what you choose in your lifestyle, don’t let the haters get to you. It’s all about self love and I will always promote self love even if it’s in weird ways (like songs about cake).
I hope you enjoy the song, the video, and this blog post. This has been a fun one!
This week I read 2 books and saw 1 movie in theatres!
Remains of the Day
by Kazuo Ishiguro
Stevens, the perfect English butler, worked for Lord Darlington through two great wars and now, with a new employer and times changing, he takes a road trip across the countryside which makes him contemplate his past. This book is not flashy, pushy, or extraordinary in its smaller moments. It’s subtle but constant, and because of this it was only after I finished that I realized what a perfect little book I had just read. I finished the final, beautiful passage and suddenly began thinking back on all of the smaller bits throughout the whole story, realizing how perfect in design the whole novel is. I think this book takes more patience than some others, but it is relatively short and if you stick it out you will discover something remarkable. 5/5 stars
Howl’s Moving Castle
by Diana Wynne Jones
Sophie’s future seems set but when the Witch of the Waste turns her into a old lady she must seek her fortune which includes finding the Wizard Howl and entering his moving castle. I really believe that this story is clever, magical, and delightful but I also believe that it doesn’t quite work in book format. The book is written so “matter of factly” and a tale that is so full of wonder needs a film adaptation or at least a graphic novel version. It doesn’t quite work when you can’t see the looks on their faces or the giant castle in motion. The story is worth hearing but perhaps just watch the Miyazaki film, which is not 100% truthful to the book but an excellent movie. 3/5 stars
Much Ado About Nothing
directed by Joss Whedon
Filmed in 12 days in Joss Whedon’s home, this is a classic retelling of Shakespeare’s original script with only a few cuts and all the love shenanigans. This was one of the most delightful movie theatre experiences I’ve had in a long time. Not only did Joss Whedon understand Shakespeare, so did all of his actors, and everyone who was roaring with laughter along with me in the theatre. This movie is filled with the luscious language that the actors revel in, but it’s also filled with physical comedy, original music, and sneaky surprises. Joss Whedon has once again proved that everything he touches turns to gold. 5/5 stars
This week I saw 2 movies in the theatre and read 2 books.
This is the End
Directed by Evan Goldberg & Seth Rogen
“Dude, what if we made a movie about the apocalypse where we are all literally playing ourselves, so no one can complain about the fact that we play ourselves in every movie we make?!” I give you This is the End, where the main 6 actors, playing themselves, toss around jokes about pop culture, party culture, the bible, penises, and of course jokes about themselves and the stereotypes they’ve acquired as Hollywood actors. I expected this movie to be good but what I didn’t expect was that it would keep getting better and better up to the glorious ending when I was clapping and crying because of how funny it was. Obviously, it’s not a life-changer but I think that Seth Rogen hit the target dead on with this piece of comedic gold. You can brush it off as silly but this idea of actors playing themselves in outlandish situations is also kind of postmodern and brilliant. 4.5/5 stars
Star Trek Into Darkness
directed by J.J. Abrams
Kirk, Spock, and the Enterprise crew must face their toughest enemies yet, including some within their own world and some that are from the deep vacuums of space. Perhaps it’s because I’ve been seeing too many indie movies lately but I couldn’t help but roll my eyes at the many Hollywood cliches thrown into this movie. The dramatic near saves, slow motion stare-downs, overuse of explosions, and loud violins over every serious moment drew me away from the strengths that this movie had. What I found enjoyable were the smaller action scenes, the ones that were about the characters rather than the computer effects, and the silly dialogue that was a delightful homage to the original series. I did gasp at the entrance of Benedict Cumberbatch, who was leagues above the other actors performance-wise and who quickly turned Khan into my newest favorite movie villain since Heath Ledger’s Joker. 3/5 stars
Music for Torching
by A.M. Homes
On an impulse Elaine and Paul set their house on fire and consequently must face both a marriage and a fire-damaged house that are in dire need of fixing. A.M. Homes’ suburban story has a lot to it’s credit including the delicious, poetic prose and the use of repetition to enhance subtext in the writing. However, this character study never quite made me fall in love with the story itself as much as it did with the language used to tell the story. My friend read this book for her “love and eroticism” class so it explores sexual meaning and sexual expression a lot but it does so with taste so that the reader does not feel like they are reading a porno. Unfortunately, I absolutely hated the ending, which is too bad because although it was never my favorite book it was, for the most part, an enjoyable read. 3/5 stars
by James Dashner
Thomas arrives in the Glade the same way that all the boys in his new home arrived: with no memory except his name and with a huge determination to solve the maze that surrounds his community in order to escape. This young adult dystopian thriller is not as much of a favorite to me as Hunger Games and Divergent, which it often gets compared to, but it is still an incredibly engaging and fun read. At some points I felt like it was talking down to me, like it was written for a younger audience, and at other times I felt like I was young again, loving every thrill and trying to solve the mystery with the boys. The premise is the best part because the author has created a dangerous and mysterious world and given us wonderful characters to experience it through. I did not always like the way the story was told and often thought the author was writing too simply, even for a younger audience, but the story and premise are intriguing enough that I would like to read the sequels in the future. 4/5 stars.